You’re homeschooling your kids? But what about prom?
At some point, every homeschool parent hears this question or others like it.
What about prom, graduation, field trips, yearbook, band, sports, the school play, etc. You know, all those things that actually constitute some of the happier memories public or private school grads may have experienced.
Milestones are important. Memories and special experiences are a valuable part of growing up.
But times change, lives change, culture changes.
Do your child’s milestone moments have to be exactly the same as yours?
Why is Prom even important?
Instead, as a homeschooling family, you can take a look at your individual child, and ask what would be meaningful to him/her.
Does your child love horses? Perhaps a trail ride and camp out to a special location would be a more meaningful activity than the time and money invested in prom would have been.
Is your child interested in travel, other cultures, or other languages? Perhaps if your budget is large enough, you might study and then visit another region of the country, or even travel internationally.
When my parents pulled me out of public school, the biggest regret in my little fifth-grader world, was that I would not have a locker the next year when I reached sixth grade. I thought I was really missing out on something important. How would I ever relate to me peers if they all had stories about having a locker in their teens, and I did not?
Well, I can’t remember a single conversation in my adult years, where my not having a locker in junior high meant I was a social outsider. Even if it had come up at some point in the last 20 years, would that really have been enough of a reason to give up all the amazing opportunities and advantages I had as a homeschool student, to set aside all the reasons my parents had chosen to homeschool in the first place, just so I could have this shared experience with my public school friends?
The truth is, in leaving behind something that did not work for your child or your family, you may have also left a few good things behind too.
But that’s ok. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent, and it doesn’t mean your child will look back on their homeschool years with regret. In homeschooling your child, you believe you have chosen what is best for them. Believe that it truly is, and work together with your spouse, child, homeschool co-op, church, and community to give your child their own unique set of milestone moments that will serve as fond memories for the rest of their (and your) lives.
If you, your spouse or your child, are still really hung up about some of those traditional school milestones they may miss in homeschooling, fear not! If you’re willing to put in a little extra work and get creative (which of course you are, you already homeschool your kids, you’re used to doing things the hard way), there is usually a work around. I’ve included links to some of my other posts with specific ideas and suggestions to give your child a version of some of those typical “schooly” experiences.